Welcome to my website! My name is Dr. Lane Lasater, a retired clinical psychologist. In gratitude for the life I have been given, I am sharing everything I learned during my career and personal life here on my website http://www.LaneLasater.com and on my YouTube Channel Life Roadmaps from a Retired Psychologisthttps://www.youtube.com/@lane205 Each post contains my written material, an AI generated graphic, a 15-17 minute audio summary, and a 5-7 minute video summarizing the material.
Discovering Psychology
Through a series of fortuitous events after college, I served for two years as a psychiatric attendant at a psychiatric hospital in Colorado. My parents were cattle ranchers, so psychology was an entirely new and fascinating world for me. During this service I experienced first hand the entire realm of human psychological troubles and treatment approaches at that time. By the end of this experience, I decided to become a clinical psychologist, and began the long journey of study and training toward that goal. Most importantly, I recognized that the family I grew up in was very troubled and discovered I had a great deal of healing to do before I could be truly helpful to others.
Over the next eight years while I completed my training, I worked in hospitals, community mental health centers, and schools and I had the great privilege of learning from wonderful mentors. I grew in understanding of myself, and learned how to help children, adults, couples, and families. Then I had the privilege of working as a psychologist for the next 35 years. Through all these experiences, I found that people most commonly sought help for the following problems in living:
Depression, Anxiety and Grief
Self-defeating Life Patterns and Addictions
Romantic Relationship Problems
Parenting and Family Challenges
Work and Career Challenges
During my training, I had to face and learn to overcome my own problems in each of these five areas deriving from growing up in a troubled family system. Ironically, my own healing experiences gave me a deep understanding of how challenging the healing and recovery process can be. The gift of my own experience combined with my professional training was that I could speak from first hand experience. People appreciated the guidance of someone who was walking my own recovery path. This recognition became the theme of much of my work–providing people with roadmaps to help them navigate their own healing process. I discovered how empowering and helpful this information and guidance could be to people facing challenges with their own families and life choices. This led to writing my first self-help book during my career called Recovery from Compulsive Behavior which reached many people. I went on to develop guidance for healing frm family trauma, solving relationship problems, raising responsible children, and other dimensions of the five areas above.
I am making all this information available on this website and on my YouTube channel. Before I retired, I published two books on Amazon, the first on healing family trauma and the second on how to find a life partner.
These two books represent the distillation of two central dimensions of my professional work–and I want to share each concept that they include. But there are many more road maps for life and building blocks for relationships, parenting, careers, that I will make available on this website and on my YouTube channel. Utilizing AI, each module I offer is presented as a short video on YouTube, and in written, audible, graphic and video form on this website so you can access this information in whatever modality is most convenient for you.
I am tremendously grateful for all the training I received from wonderful mentors, and the for support, trust and kindness of my clients and recovery friends. It is my hope that the knowledge I have gained can help you understand the challenges you face in healing, romantic relationships, finding fulfilling work, parenting, and maintaining your well-being through the ups and downs of life. Best wishes to you on your life journey and may all your dreams come true!
Disclaimer
This website is designed to give you information to help you be successful in your life decisions and relationships. The information and suggestions provided are for the reader’s education and consideration only. Providing information and practical tools to you about personal and relationship challenges and solutions does not constitute the practice of psychotherapy or medicine. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. has taken care to alert you to serious warning signs and encourage you to seek licensed professional help when indicated. The information provided here is not a substitute for assessment, diagnosis and treatment of any mental disorder and cannot substitute for the services of a mental health care professional or physician. It is intended for instructional purposes only. The use of this information is solely at your own risk.
Trigger and Content Warning: Please be aware that the website includes descriptions of trauma, PTSD, child abuse, alcoholism, family violence, drug addiction, sexual addiction, compulsive behavior patterns including overeating, bulimia, sexual abuse, depression, disability, divorce, anger, sex, and terminal illness which could disturb or trigger upsetting memories for certain readers.
Lane Lasater, Ph.D. shall have no liability for claims by, or damages of any kind to, a user of this information. Such damages include, without limitation, damages for personal injuries, emotional distress, and other non-monetary loss, as well as direct or indirect damages. I have made all reasonable efforts to include accurate information to you but make no warranties or representations as to its accuracy, completeness, or timeliness. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. assumes no liability or responsibility for any errors or omissions in the content of this written and electronic work. To the full extent permitted by law, we disclaim all warranties, express or implied. By using the information on this website, you are agreeing to the provisions of this disclaimer, and you waive all claims that may arise in connection with your use of this information and understand that you use this information at your own risk.
Are you still suffering from childhood traumatic events? The goal of this website is to guide you step-by-step as you move beyond the harmful experiences you faced and overcome their powerful and enduring effects in your adult life. I’ve walked every step of this path as I healed from my troubled childhood and found my …
In this post I describe for you 23 exercises and self-assessments that I developed to help people move through the stages of behavior and emotional change during recovery from Family Trauma Syndrome. Throughout my posts I offer detailed descriptions of the lives of people recovering from these patterns, and step-by-step suggestions to assist you in …
In this post I want to explain to you how I helped people understand themselves and find enduring solutions to the challenges they faced. Throughout my career, I used ordinary language descriptions rather than psychological diagnostic terminology (except for PTSD and Chronic PTSD) to describe people’s recovery experiences. Psychiatric and psychological diagnoses were originally developed …
Powerful Feelings from the Past When I think back over my life and recovery, one thing I have learned is that children and adults do the best they can with the information and resources they have at that time. Unfortunately, as you know, children are often limited to the resources (or lack thereof) available to …
The Transformation Process What did we really want and need when we developed our childhood survival patterns? We usually needed things like stability, affection, self-worth, and support. You’ll find constructive ways to provide these things to yourself during recovery, maybe for the first time. Be thankful you found even desperate ways of surviving your difficulties, …
Childhood Self-Comforting Strategies can Lead to Addiction This post describes how addictions develop from our childhood coping mechanisms. As human beings, we naturally seek changes in consciousness. Achieving a satisfying and lasting state of mind and body is a basic life challenge. Our feelings and awareness can change subtly or dramatically, sometimes rapidly and sometimes …
Where Survival Strategies Originate This post gives you an overview of how our childhood trauma and survival strategies in troubled families where we may have experienced insecurity, distrust, volatility, criticism, conflict, and distance. In many families, problems were hidden or invisible. These hidden family troubles are quite damaging because children don’t have dramatic events to …
Family Trauma Syndrome In this post I introduce you to what I describe as Family Trauma Syndrome. Through my own recovery from childhood family trauma and alcoholism, and through my professional work guiding people of all ages toward recovery from traumatic experiences, I identified a pattern that I call “family trauma syndrome.” This term encompasses …
Introduction to My Website
Welcome to my website! My name is Dr. Lane Lasater, a retired clinical psychologist. In gratitude for the life I have been given, I am sharing everything I learned during my career and personal life here on my website http://www.LaneLasater.com and on my YouTube Channel Life Roadmaps from a Retired Psychologist https://www.youtube.com/@lane205 Each post contains my written material, an AI generated graphic, a 15-17 minute audio summary, and a 5-7 minute video summarizing the material.
Discovering Psychology
Through a series of fortuitous events after college, I served for two years as a psychiatric attendant at a psychiatric hospital in Colorado. My parents were cattle ranchers, so psychology was an entirely new and fascinating world for me. During this service I experienced first hand the entire realm of human psychological troubles and treatment approaches at that time. By the end of this experience, I decided to become a clinical psychologist, and began the long journey of study and training toward that goal. Most importantly, I recognized that the family I grew up in was very troubled and discovered I had a great deal of healing to do before I could be truly helpful to others.
Over the next eight years while I completed my training, I worked in hospitals, community mental health centers, and schools and I had the great privilege of learning from wonderful mentors. I grew in understanding of myself, and learned how to help children, adults, couples, and families. Then I had the privilege of working as a psychologist for the next 35 years. Through all these experiences, I found that people most commonly sought help for the following problems in living:
During my training, I had to face and learn to overcome my own problems in each of these five areas deriving from growing up in a troubled family system. Ironically, my own healing experiences gave me a deep understanding of how challenging the healing and recovery process can be. The gift of my own experience combined with my professional training was that I could speak from first hand experience. People appreciated the guidance of someone who was walking my own recovery path. This recognition became the theme of much of my work–providing people with roadmaps to help them navigate their own healing process. I discovered how empowering and helpful this information and guidance could be to people facing challenges with their own families and life choices. This led to writing my first self-help book during my career called Recovery from Compulsive Behavior which reached many people. I went on to develop guidance for healing frm family trauma, solving relationship problems, raising responsible children, and other dimensions of the five areas above.
I am making all this information available on this website and on my YouTube channel. Before I retired, I published two books on Amazon, the first on healing family trauma and the second on how to find a life partner.
The first book, Transcending Family Trauma https: https://www.amazon.com/Transcending-Family-Trauma-Experiences-Fundamental-ebook/dp/B09F4P1LBW/ provides a complete roadmap to recovery.
My first series of blog posts presents all the material in this book. Click on this link https://www.lanelasater.com/transcending-family-trauma/ or the menu above to access this series:
My second book, Smart Happy Love https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Happy-Love-Relationship-Partnership/dp/1737527529/ offers a roadmap to finding and creating a healthy life partnership. I cover all the material in that book in my series of blog posts under the heading above “Finding a Life Partner.”
These two books represent the distillation of two central dimensions of my professional work–and I want to share each concept that they include. But there are many more road maps for life and building blocks for relationships, parenting, careers, that I will make available on this website and on my YouTube channel. Utilizing AI, each module I offer is presented as a short video on YouTube, and in written, audible, graphic and video form on this website so you can access this information in whatever modality is most convenient for you.
I am tremendously grateful for all the training I received from wonderful mentors, and the for support, trust and kindness of my clients and recovery friends. It is my hope that the knowledge I have gained can help you understand the challenges you face in healing, romantic relationships, finding fulfilling work, parenting, and maintaining your well-being through the ups and downs of life. Best wishes to you on your life journey and may all your dreams come true!
Disclaimer
This website is designed to give you information to help you be successful in your life decisions and relationships. The information and suggestions provided are for the reader’s education and consideration only. Providing information and practical tools to you about personal and relationship challenges and solutions does not constitute the practice of psychotherapy or medicine. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. has taken care to alert you to serious warning signs and encourage you to seek licensed professional help when indicated. The information provided here is not a substitute for assessment, diagnosis and treatment of any mental disorder and cannot substitute for the services of a mental health care professional or physician. It is intended for instructional purposes only. The use of this information is solely at your own risk.
Trigger and Content Warning: Please be aware that the website includes descriptions of trauma, PTSD, child abuse, alcoholism, family violence, drug addiction, sexual addiction, compulsive behavior patterns including overeating, bulimia, sexual abuse, depression, disability, divorce, anger, sex, and terminal illness which could disturb or trigger upsetting memories for certain readers.
Lane Lasater, Ph.D. shall have no liability for claims by, or damages of any kind to, a user of this information. Such damages include, without limitation, damages for personal injuries, emotional distress, and other non-monetary loss, as well as direct or indirect damages. I have made all reasonable efforts to include accurate information to you but make no warranties or representations as to its accuracy, completeness, or timeliness. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. assumes no liability or responsibility for any errors or omissions in the content of this written and electronic work. To the full extent permitted by law, we disclaim all warranties, express or implied. By using the information on this website, you are agreeing to the provisions of this disclaimer, and you waive all claims that may arise in connection with your use of this information and understand that you use this information at your own risk.
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Exercises to Support Recovery from Family Trauma Syndrome
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How to Be an Effective Psychologist
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Transforming Your Life
The Transformation Process What did we really want and need when we developed our childhood survival patterns? We usually needed things like stability, affection, self-worth, and support. You’ll find constructive ways to provide these things to yourself during recovery, maybe for the first time. Be thankful you found even desperate ways of surviving your difficulties, …
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